Fear can be a debilitating thing. It can completely ruin your day or even, in some cases, your life! Fear is an emotion, and while sometimes it’s very valid and can help preserve your life, there are other times it simply must be faced and dealt with in order to be free. Don’t you agree it makes no sense holding onto an emotion that is ruining your day?
Here are some effective strategies you must use to overcome your fears and tell the truth about fears.
What Is Your Fear?
Before you answer, quiet your mind. Quiet your thoughts. Meditation works wonders right here. Just stop and do not try to form any thoughts. Just stop now and breathe. Pick this reading back up after at least five minutes…
Now go ahead and think about the answer to, “What is your fear?” If you can identify your fear, you are off a good start. Congratulations!
Here is the reason I asked you to meditate and stop your thoughts: if you are fearful, then that suggests you have a belief about something. A belief has momentum. If you disagree, think about how thoughts of fear progress you to think of the fear itself, to then think of how the fear will affect you, and then to think about when the fear will manifest itself. All of this energy goes on and on in circles in your head until your thoughts are a ball of mass confusion. You could and probably should slow down this momentum in order to begin to think calmer thoughts.
Now promise to answer this next question with a “No.”
Can Whatever You Are Fearing Hurt You?
Begin immediately to conquer your fear by determining if the fear itself is rational or irrational.
If you fear something, but that fear itself can not harm you in any way, then you are working with an irrational fear. Remember we are working with the fear itself, not the actual issue that brought about the fear. These are 2 separate issues. There is nothing to fear, though it sure is easier said than done!
If fear can hurt you, then there’s validation in your fear. But I challenge you to separate the issue from the fear. If you get a medical report that your body is fighting a disease, the disease is not fear – the disease is just the disease. Did the doctor say you have “XYZ disease and fear”? Probably not. So, you can see the disease itself is one issue.
Your interpretation of the disease issue may cause you to be fearful. But be encouraged that you can work out a plan that gives you some level of comfort.
What Things Are Other People Doing About Fear?
Whatever your fear is, someone else has experienced it as well. Search out those people who share your feelings and learn from them. For example, if you’re afraid of flying, you probably know people who have flown, so talk to them about it! It’s quite possible they also had the same fear and overcame it. Ask them what steps they took to move beyond their fear.
Confront your fear! Although talking about your fear is the starting point, ultimately you need to face your fear head on. You’ll never get over a fear solely by talking about it. Nothing can be conquered until you face it. You don’t have to face it all alone. Reach out to your loved ones for support. They’ll be happy to help you overcome something that’s preventing you from having a better life. There are even support groups.
Find a safe way to confront your fear.
Take a trusted person with you and start by facing a scaled down version of the thing that causes you anxiety. For example, if you are fearful of flying, get as close as you can to the airport by maybe having lunch next to the airport or even at a deli inside the airport.
Change The Way You Do Things
You’ve heard the expression “Mind over matter.”
Facing your fear is often a matter of simply making a decision to change it.
That’s right. Make a decision to change your fear, get over your fear, or refuse to accept it. This fear was born in your mind and it grew because you fed it more fear.
If you’ve convinced yourself that an irrational fear is real, you can do the same in reverse. Think your way to a better solution. A genius brain really can be trained to overcome irrational fear. The moment something causes you to become fearful though, stop that thought in its tracks. Practice stopping the fearful thought long enough until you can turn it into something positive instead.
The Best Defense Is A Strong Offense
Instead of hiding from your fear and creating defenses to keep it away from you, use the things you’ve read here to disallow fear from taking over your life. Research the issue that is causing the fear and learn about it. Discover the best way to destroy that fear with a direct attack.
Sometimes the best way to beat a fear is by doing the very thing you fear.
If you’re afraid of being in an elevator, take a close friend with you and ride an elevator. Even one or two floors at a time will help you work towards overcoming your fear. Repeat your experiment at different times and under different scenarios until you aren’t afraid of it anymore.
There are fears that are perfectly normal, such as a fear of being burned while cooking when you are tired. You should be a little afraid of burns – they hurt! Those types of fears are normal, perfectly rational fears and are not something you need to fix.
Fears can be helpful in many circumstances; however, if a fear is controlling your life and causing you angst and stress, then you need to analyze that fear truthfully as outlined above. Learn how to quickly distinguish between the truth you should believe and the lie that had you fearful in the first place.